Are Suicidal Thoughts After My Father’s Death Natural?

I am a young woman, 28 years old, who lost my father to cancer. I have been in and out of psychiatric care over the last six months. Each time, I am told that it is natural for me to react so strongly, but is it really?


Dear you,

First of all, thank you for your message. I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your father.

Your headline asks if suicidal thoughts after a father’s death are natural, and I believe it is natural that, when one experiences a loss, they become more conscious about death and simultaneously feel a sense of meaninglessness. However, it is difficult for me to determine the severity of your situation because suicidal thoughts should not be persistent and certainly not controlling your life. It is good that you are receiving help in psychiatric care.

Your intense reaction also signifies love to me. An old saying goes, “Grief is love with no recipient.” I think your reaction is intense because you loved and continue to love your father very much, which is why you are naturally in deep grief. Just like with suicidal thoughts, it is important to get help. It doesn’t necessarily have to be through public services. I have also lost my father, and for me, it helped immensely to talk with my family and friends. The more words I could express about my grief, the less intense my reaction to the loss became. Therefore, I don’t necessarily think you are reacting too strongly, but that you are simply reacting to your loss. It is important to reach out and get help, and you are doing that by writing to me.

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I hope my thoughts have been helpful to you.

Best regards from one of the volunteers

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